When our father irritate us?

An old man was sitting in the courtyard of his house along with his son who had received a high education. Suddenly a crow perched on a wall of the house. The father asked the son: What is this? The son replied: It is a crow. After a little while the father again asked the son: What is this? The son said: It is a crow.

After a few minutes the father asked his son the third time: What is this?

The son said: Father, I have just now told you that this is a crow.

After a little while the old father again asked his son the fourth time: what is this?

By this time some statement of irritation was felt in the son’s tone when he rebuffed his father:

Father! It is a crow, a crow.

A little after the father again asked his son: What is this? This time the son replied to his father with a vein of temper. Father: You are always repeating the same question; although I have told you so many times that it is a crow. Are you not able to understand this?

The father went to his room and came back with an old diary. Opening a page he asked his son to read what was written. What the son read were the following words written in the diary:

‘Today my little son was sitting with me in the courtyard, when a crow came there. My son asked me twenty-five times what it was and I told him twenty-five times that it was a crow and I did not at all feel irritated. I rather felt affection for my innocent child.’

The father then explained to his son the difference between a father’s and a son’s attitude. While you were a little child you asked me this question twenty-five times and I felt no irritation in replying to the question twenty-five times and when today I asked you the same question only five times, you felt irritated, annoyed and impatient with me.

Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) mentions in Noble Qur’an:

“And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) “Ugh” nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! Have compassion on them, as they brought me up (when I was) little.” Noble Qur’an (17:23-24)

Imam Zainul Abideen (pbuh) says: “It is also said that once a man came to the Holy Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and asked: “I feed my parents, carry them on my back and clean them, have I fulfilled my duty towards them? The Holy Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) answered: No, because, you are serving them in anticipation for their death while they served you wishing you a long life”.

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What is it that makes a bigger difference……………?

What is it that makes a bigger difference……………?

It’s the smaller things that we do, that makes a bigger difference, many a times………………………….

This is a simple truth, we fail to understand most of the time ……

For example , parents, spend on their kids for education, health etc…….They do a lot for the happiness of their children……But when it comes to giving them a hug, giving them a little some time and listen to them……..they fail to do so…….Can a maid listen to the pleas of your child, ? Parents can pay high salary and keep a maid to look after kids, but can never replace the love a kid needs from parents……..So in fact it’s the little something we could do that makes a bigger difference………Iistening to your children, spending some time with them etc………

A husband can pour his wealth on his wife, but can never make his wife happy, if he cannot give sincere love……..Sincere love includes listening, sharing, caring………spending time etc……..Likewise, a wife can do all cooking, ironing, and cleaning etc.. for the husband….But it’s the little time she spends, listening, little time she spends trying to understand her husband, with out judging him, which makes a bigger difference……….

A child can spend wealth on his/her parents when they are old…..But its not what you spend that would make a difference to them………It’s what’s in your heart that can be felt by them….It’s how sincere you are that matters……..a little time spent with them listening to them, it’s what matters…….. A little time spent listening could make a difference more than a little time spent talking……..

Hence a little quality time spent with your loved ones could be, more valuable than anything that can be purchased with money…………….

This applies to all relationships in general……

A sincere smile could make a difference……….A sincere greeting could make a difference……..

Salaam……….Have a nice day! Insha Allah………

Patience

Patience……….

Is the key……….to everything that’s good in life……….

If you are patient…..you face life’s challenges with faith and courage.

If you are patient, you teach others to be patient……..

If you are patient, you and everyone around you can experience the fruit of patience…….

If you are patient, through out life’s ups n downs your faith remains unaltered…….

If you are patient, you never fall in to Shaithaans trap………

If you are patient, you find much more pleasure in giving than in receiving……….

If you are patient, you seek that which is eternal not that which is temporary………….

If you are patient, you know in your heart that only Allah SWA can help you………

If you are patient, you can acknowledge your mistakes……

If you are patient, you do everything for the sake of Allah…………..

If you are patient, no one can beat you…………

If you are patient, you seek strength from Allah only!

If you are patient, everything that’s good comes your way……..

So let’s learn to be patient, which is the key to everything that’s good……….

You don’t have to be born patient, you can learn it, you can practice it consciously, till it becomes abided in your nature……………..

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The Search for Inner Peace (part 1 of 4): The Obstacles to Achieving Inner Peace

The topic of inner peace addresses a universal need. There is nobody on this planet that does not desire inner peace. It is not a desire that is new to our time; rather, it is something that everybody has been searching for throughout the ages, regardless of color, creed, religion, race, nationality, age, sex, wealth, ability or technological advancement.

People have taken a variety of different paths in trying to achieve inner peace, some through accumulating material possessions and wealth, others through drugs; some through music, others through meditation; some through their husbands and wives, others through their careers and some through their children’s achievements. And the list goes on.

Yet the search also goes on. In our time we have been led to believe that technological advancement and modernization will produce for us physical comforts and through these we will attain inner peace.

However, if we were to take the most technologically advanced and most industrialized nation in the world, America, then we would see that what we have been led to believe is not factual. The statistics show that in America some 20 million adults suffer from depression yearly; and what is depression but a total lack of inner peace? Furthermore in the year 2000 death rate due to suicide was double the rate of those who died from Aids. However, the news media being what it is, we hear more about those who die from Aids than we do about those who die by committing suicide. Also more people die from suicide in America than from homicide, and the homicide rates themselves are massive.

So the reality is that technological advancement and modernization have not bought inner peace and tranquility. Rather in spite of the comforts that modernization has brought us, we are further away from inner peace than our ancestors were.

Inner peace is for the most part of our lives very elusive; we never seem to get our hands on it.

Many of us mistake personal pleasures for inner peace; we achieve elements of pleasure from a variety of things, be it wealth, sexual relations or other than that. But these do not last, they come and go. Yes we have personal pleasures from time to time and we are pleased with various things from time to time, but this is not inner peace. True inner peace is a sense of stability and contentment which carries us through all the trials and difficulties of life.

We need to understand that peace is not something that will exist in this world around us because when we define peace according to the dictionary definition it states that peace is freedom from war or civil strife. Where do have this? There is always a war or some sort of civil unrest happening somewhere in the world. If we look at peace in terms of the state level then peace is freedom from public disorder and security, but where in the world do we have this in a complete form? If we look at peace on a social level, family and work, then peace is freedom from disagreements and arguments, but is there such a social environment that never has disagreements or arguments? In terms of location, then yes, we can have a place which is calm, peaceful and tranquil, some islands for example, but this external peace only exists for a small amount of time, sooner or later a storm or a hurricane will come.

Allah says:

“Verily, I have created man in toil (struggle).” (Quran 90:4)

This is the nature of our lives; we are in toil and struggle, ups and downs, times of difficulties and times of ease.

It is a life full of tests as God says:

“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to as-Saabirin (the patient ones, etc.).” (Quran 2:155)

To deal with our circumstances, the circumstances of toil and struggle in which we live, patience is the key.

But if we go back to the inner peace that we are looking for, then patience cannot manifest itself if we do not have that inner peace.

We are living in a world of toil and struggle, but yet within ourselves it is possible to attain inner peace, peace with the environment, with the world in which we live.

Obviously there are some obstacles which prevent us from attaining peace. So first we have to identify the obstacles in our lives which prevent us from achieving maximum inner peace and develop some kind of strategy to remove them. The obstacles will not be removed just by thinking that we need to remove them; we have to develop some steps to achieve this. So how do we go about removing these obstacles so that we can achieve what is possible of inner peace?

The first step is to identify the obstacles themselves. We have to be aware of them, because if we cannot identify them then we cannot remove them.

The second step is to accept them as obstacles within ourselves. For example anger is one of the biggest obstacles to inner peace. If a person is angry, worked up and has blown a fuse, how can he or she have inner peace in that circumstance? It is not possible. So the person needs to recognize that anger is an obstacle to inner peace.

However, if a person states that, “Yes, it is an obstacle but I do not get angry”, then such a person has a problem. He has not accepted that obstacle as a problem and is in a state of self denial. As such he cannot remove it.

If we look at the obstacles in life we can put them under a variety of headings: personal problems, family issues, financial dilemmas, work pressures and spiritual confusion. And there are many issues under these headings.

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(to be continued.....insha Allah.....)

Take nothing for granted........

Take nothing for granted………….

‘Cos

Tomorrow you might wakeup

To find a loved one gone..

To find out, you suffer from a severe disease

To find out, you have lost all your hard earned wealth….

To find your self, worn out and old.

Hence………

Give love to your loved ones, expect nothing in return, except the reward from Allah

Appreciate your health, be thankful to Allah for your health, help others, while you can

know it in your heart, what you save is only, what you give (with sincerity)

Make use of young age in the proper way,not to hide from the truth, not to get lost in worldy amusements,but to worship Allah

Be thankful to Allah for everything .Say Alhamdhlillaahi..

Take nothing for granted.......

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